All of us have the ability to come out of our cocoon and be a beautiful, charming and magnificent butterfly. We just have to realize our own different cocoons and the ways to emerge out of it.
Sometimes, when we see a person who has a glowing complexion and zest for life; who seems to be happy about something all the time; who always seems to make out time for her creative pursuits, we do tend to feel at loss. This is because we are not able to make out why we have such lackluster lives, why we do not feel happy despite having good jobs, good families and a good personality??
We often let out a sigh and believe that we are not meant to have great lives while some people have the best of both the worlds.
Oh my God!
This does get very depressing, doesn't it?
I remember, few years back, I met one of my school friends . It was a chance meeting and we happened to meet at a public place. She was still a confident, smart, and independent girl as she used to be. She laughed unabashedly and exuded jubilation for life! She had been married for more than eight years and traveled extensively for work. She and her husband had consciously decided not to bear children yet.
Before I had met her, I considered myself somewhat similar. Of course, producing two children and the responsibilities of a joint family had taken a toll on my physical and emotional health, but before meeting her, I had never realized the extent of this toll.
Rest of the day was spent in shock. The next day, I started recovery.
I sat down to weigh my choices. It turned out to be a 'weighing down of life choices' session. By the time it ended, it turned out that I had made most of my life choices 'wrong'! I was clearly in deep misery after that.
My personal cocoon just got bigger and bitter. Obviously, I felt more constricted in it.
After two days of condemning myself and being aggressive with everyone, the moment of truth arrived!
Things need to change. The life choices till now cannot be changed. The responsibilities cannot be shrugged away.
But I can change my present and my future self. And I will do that.
This was the first step towards my metamorphosis. I needed to declare that. Believe me, declaring the intention helps. So I did that.
Often, we wish to be like someone else we know and admire. Someone with a good body; someone with good skills; someone with a good spouse; someone who makes us jealous. It is not illegal to want that, is it?
One big thing to remember during your own metamorphosis....YOU ARE UNIQUE. THERE IS NOBODY LIKE YOU.
If I had to work on myself, I did not need to work to become like my friend whom I admired, but work to become ME!!!
The first step towards transforming self is LOVE YOURSELF. That is the first and the only step. You can read my post on Love yourself.
Somewhere my love for myself had diminished, that is why I had started compromising my personal needs and satisfaction for those of others. Not anymore.
The moment the focus shifted from others' happiness to my happiness, things got focused with a different perspective. My daily routine found a spot for some me-time. I started pursuing some creative activity....ranging from painting, exercises, meditation, music, dance, heritage walks and so on. I made new friends and revived the old ones.
Focusing on oneself need not mean ignoring ones responsibilities. The kids still needed me, and the family still had their needs. I worked around things and it worked out beautifully. I started taking up professional work which I had left to cater to the needs of everyone.
I realized that I had willingly chosen to ignore myself for others. Nobody asked me to do that. I felt an obligation to do that. In the process, I kept on smothering my inner thoughts and needs. Where did it lead to ?
Loads of discontent.
Yes, just by starting to love myself back, I am on the path of transformation and inner liberation.
Loving yourself truly and completely transforms you!!
So, what's stopping you???
Love and stay loved